now imagine that there’s a river stream
and you’re just floating down this river stream however imagine that you’re
trying to grab onto branches and grab onto other things and trying to attach
to it and imagine that if you were to just let go of all of that and go with
the flow that the river would take you exactly where you need to go welcome
back to another video my name’s Aaron and I owe people expand their
consciousness now in this video I’m gonna be showing you the power of
detachment how this can be like magic in your life and why the root of all
suffering is attachment this was something that Buddha said or this
Buddha was quoted at saying and it’s true the more attached we become to
different things in our life the more pain we create so the key is
understanding that the more we detach the more free we become and I’m going to
share with you some things from my own life that I’ve noticed through this
process and how it can change your life and become very magical so first off the
thing I want to share with you is there is this quote that I heard as well it
came from Deepak Chopra and it had to do I’m not gonna read the exact quote but
the general idea is that inside of certainty is the prison of our own
thoughts and certainties also attachment we become attached to people we become
attached to our thoughts we become attached to our own labels and in that
attachment is certainty outside of that certainty is uncertainty and an
uncertainty is where infinite possibilities are so in a way we hold
ourselves through attachment to different ideologies maybe it’s a
certain person imagine that there are 7.5 billion people out there in the
world and imagine that you are attached to one person and it has to work right
with one person and you inside of this little belief system are like it needs
to work out it needs to work out it needs to work out and I’m attached and
they need to act this way and then I could be happy but imagine that you are
actually possibly limiting yourself imagine that there are billions of
people out there and there’s a high likelihood that if you have such a deep
connection with this one person there’s a high likelihood that there could be
someone else out there that you have even a deeper connection with that is
just an example of this but that’s many times what we do we may be holding on to
certain perspectives that keep us uncertainty and the Deepak Chopra quote
was about uncertainty and uncertainty and the unknown is where infinite
possibility is it is where freedom is and in this video I’m gonna show you the
magic of detachment how you tap into it and how things really become magical
when we get out of the prison of our own beliefs the prison of our own attachment
and any time think about any time we attach to our own thoughts
that’s where pain starts to come from that’s where then we we start to get in
this little negative thought loop there was something I was thinking about the
other day and I just kept figured about it the more I thought about it the more
it grew and the more attached to it I was and the more then I would go out
into the world and see other things that reflected that back to me but the moment
I caught myself and the moment I became detached from it and think about it when
he become detached you then are able to separate yourself for me and inside of
it you can then observe it in a new way and when you observe it in a new way
that’s where power is so let’s go ahead and get into this I’ve attachments
another way of control so the first off there’s different ways
we become attached in general we can become attached by our thoughts we can
become attached to people and how people act we can become attached to outcome
this is something I’ve definitely been attached to in my life is I’ve been
attached to pretty much all of these I’m sure we all have but beliefs another one
attached to certain beliefs this is the way reality is labels I am somebody with
ADHD this is who I am it’s also kind of tied in to identity as well let me get
some of my notes here I wanted to make this video a little bit more in detail
understanding this whole process and really how it works and what we become
attached to so a lot of what we become attached to in general is we have this
attachment because we like certainty when we have certainty we feel safe but
many times what happened is we became safe and we decided this is very very
important to become safe and then we drained out the magic of life we drained
out allowing the universe to show us infinite possibility and I believe that
in certainty is where boring is it’s where boring is it’s where everything’s
the same over and over and over again and the more we allow ourselves to
change that the easier it is now I have realized this also when I was working
that 9 to 5 job I remember specifically outcome
I was working that 95 job selling woman’s shoes at Barneys New York there
were days I would go into work and I’d be very focused on a certain outcome I
would say okay my goal is to sell it was a commission job commission based job I
got paid like five or six percent commission or whatever I sold and the
idea is that if I sell like $5,000 that’s like like 300 something dollars
say oh there that’s a good day so I’d go in some days I’ve been okay my
outcomes I want to sell this amount and when I went in and I was helping people
and I was then attached to people and how they responded to me in the hopes
that they would buy something because if they would buy something I would then
have my outcome the more I would try to control all of these at different
aspects and the more attached I was to the outcome the more resistant I would
get because the more attached I was I was also saying I wasn’t trusting the
process if I was helping somebody I was like okay this person needs to buy
because I only have a couple extra hours of my shift left and I need to hit my
goal and then I would be attached to the outcome and it would create this
resistance around everything and then what would happen is those customers
would feel that resistance from me and then they wouldn’t buy but let me share
with you something there is a magic a magic to detachment there were days I
would go into work completely detached from the outcome still with the
intention this doesn’t mean detachment is like we’re just aloof and we just
have no direction whatsoever have intention it’s like I intend to
help people today I intend to have this outcome but I’m not attached to it
happened to happen my happiness my internal state of being is not attached
to the outside that’s really what attachment is too we have the inner
world and when we’re attached we are in a way trying to control we are like
grabbing the universe by the throat this is the throat of the universe we are
grabbing the universe by the throat and we’re saying it’d better work out like
this we’re trying to control the outside and attach to it rather than detaching
from it emotionally and energetically but if we were to detach from it it we
would then become more free so that sales commission job and every day I
went in I started at zero so it was like new every single day so the cool thing
about that is it was like a law of attraction playground I got to see what
worked and what didn’t work because every day I started new and I’ll tell
you the most magical days were the days I was the most detached from outcome and
from how people acted I would just have fun I would focus on an intention of the
vision but it was mainly focused on detachment from outcome having fun
trusting the process that’s when magic would really begin to happen and imagine
this even this works with relationships as well I remember when I first got into
one of my last relationships when I was in a relationship with the amazing Lior
and when we first started dating I remember I was really trying to control
I was attached to the outcome super attached to the outcome I was like I
hope it works out I really hope it works out and and it was like the beginning I
never felt like that before also I never I never had that perspective but I never
had a soulful connection with someone before but I remember the beginning of
our relationship even though we were in different cities she was in LA I was in
Vegas I’d be thinking I hope I hope everything goes well I hope she you know
she then she went to like travel to Europe with her with one of her her best
friends and I was worried I was like I hope I hope that you know everything’s
still going well even though we’re so far away and we can’t talk as much we’re
on different time zones and stuff the more attached to it I was the more
resistant I felt and then the resistance she felt because
energetically we also have you know skill esoteric here we have energetic
chords from person to person we all have energetic chords that when
we think about someone we’re sending them energy in his vice-versa
now what happens to when we’re attached we’re trying to control we are in a way
rigidly controlling that energetic chord and then that causes resistance so if
you’re trying to attract love and yourself it into your life the more you
think about this person and the more you feel resistance because they’re not
acting the way you want the more you resist them and the more they feel that
because energy is contagious so there’s a magic load to detachment
because detachment is also not it is unconditional love and many times you’ll
feel even more of that love Lior and I were in a relationship for about a year
we’re still very very good friends and we had this deep deep love for each
other even though we’re not together and the moment that it changed we were
starting to feel resistance in our relationship we were traveling the world
like you guys may have saw we were in Costa Rica or in Tulum the more we tried
to control we had expectation an attachment to an expectation of each
other the more resistance in in a little bit of a box we felt we felt like we
were in a prison of our own beliefs a prison of our expectations of each other
but then what we realized was that if we can let go of these expectations and let
go of these labels and his identity at even being together we didn’t felt 3 we
even felt closer than ever and it was something it was a magical type of thing
now doesn’t mean that we’re back together you know that’s not that’s
doesn’t mean there wasn’t a non happy ending it was a very happy ending we
both are still amazing friends and we will be for our whole lives however the
reason I share that is there’s a magic in an unconditional love that happens
when you’re not attached to how love has to be when you’re not attached to
different thoughts and even your internal world the time you feel
suffering in your internal world is when you feel attached to your thoughts
because when you feel attached to your thoughts many times you start to
identify with your thoughts you start to say this is who I am and one of the
biggest cons in life that we believe we are our thoughts we
think thoughts but we are not our thoughts but we think we are that causes
pain that causes suffering but the more that we can become free of our thoughts
by observing them in a not emotionally being attached or identified with it the
more free we will become the more free we will feel from this so another thing
I wanted to talk about a little bit is something that you’ve probably heard me
talk about before but I really want to wire this in now first off magic happens
when you do this because when you get into the unknown when you get into
uncertainty that’s where things can really begin to happen imagine we have
this this box like that prison I was showing you and there’s a certain way we
think we feel and act and when we do those things over and over and over
again we become very comfortable with it and then we do those things over and
over again it means as we become attached so because it becomes safe but
when we step into the unknown this is where then we can experience you can’t
experience anything new in this little box because all your to experience is
more of what you know more of what you know however if you step into what you
don’t know this is where then the mind can’t try to just jump to the easiest
thing the mind can’t jump to what’s familiar because there’s nothing
familiar with in a new environment if you go to the same gym every day you’re
like okay I’m gonna workout right here okay now I’m gonna go to that machine
over there I do this every Wednesday and then what
happens if you go to a completely new gym maybe some type of um like they have
this place in Vegas you go or there’s like different type of yoga bootcamp
stuff and all this other stuff in different rooms and and all these little
dumbbells and stuff that you use your mind you go in there and be like that’s
just no I don’t know where’s my where’s my machine
where’s my Mitch I want my back machine out the back were saying I don’t say no
back my saying and then it’s like wow but here’s the thing you can’t you can’t
you’re not gonna stay in that little comfort zone and you’re gonna get into
the unknown then guess what by branching out and decided to do something like
that you may meet the love your life right there next to you doing
the little boot camp little dumbbell thing and you’re like wow that’s not a
backward saying but I like you now you guys know related stuff and now we love
forever see that’s out that’s the magic of detachment but here’s the thing with
love little pet is stool look at that we’re on a pedestal oh look we’re at the
same level now imagine you make something very very important what we
didn’t do is we put it on a pedestal it’s up here we say look at you look at
you up there you’re so beautiful oh my god this doesn’t work out it feels so
good and the moment we put something on a
pedestal we make it very important is the moment we create resistance
importance equals resistance in a port since many times also equals attachment
and I’ll tell you right now anytime I make something important I get stopped
on my hand it goes Aeryn no I was like there you know there’s been times I’m
like I’ve been looking at how something I really want this house I really want
this house I start feeling resistance resistance I started really thinking
about it I get my own head about it and then things will kind of fall apart it’s
the universe going you know just relax it’s okay we got this okay that’s what
happens and then if there’s someone like so when you start dating someone like oh
my god you’re on a pedestal you so amazing so amazing so amazing so like
why am I feeling this resistance from this person I like this person I want to
like them but I feel this resistance and the universe goes on your head and goes
I mean no okay detach that’s the key it’s detachment its detachment incoming
becoming free become free you want to know here’s something else that I was
attached to for a long time I’m gonna share this with you I haven’t even
showed a story yet intermittent fasting inter you guys get the minute fasting
okay in a minute fasting for a long time I for two years I was doing this thing I
would not eat till 3 p.m. every day and I would stop being at like 4:30 p.m.
I’d eaten like 1 and 1/2 hour window all my food for the day I would like eat a
huge meal and it was really cool and I enjoyed that however I
realized that if I went to the gym at 12 p.m. I would then have a really crappy
work out I start never really crappy workout something why is this happening
I don’t care but it wouldn’t happen as I was talking to one of our mind Victor’s
friend Victor’s my best friend and then this
guy that that we knows real cool guy he’s like a body built he really
understands you know how the body works all this stuff and I was talking to him
and I became aware and I had this rigid belief that I couldn’t eat until 3
o’clock every day then what happened as I became aware that actually what I need
to do to gain weight and gain muscle which is what I wanted that’s what I
wanted to do is I have to I have to extend my eating window a little bit in
termina fastings within an eight-hour window but for some weird crazy reason I
was attached as one and a half hour window in my mind I was attached to this
identity this perspective I am and in a minute faster decide who I am Plus as I
attached that belief one know what happened I realized that in order for me
to get my goals I actually have to let that go I have to a detached from that
perspective when I detached from that perspective guess what I felt so much
release and freedom because I’m like wait you mean you can tell me that after
I make my youtube video what I just made right make it right now I can go over
there and make this really cool shake with a little bit of vegan protein
powder with a little bit of fruit with a little bit of spinach with a little bit
of this vegan yogurt and I can eat drink that and then go to the gym an hour
later and have all this energy to work out and feel amazing and not feel so
fatigued this is a brand new world but I was attached so detaching you feel free
I’m like whoa maybe intermittent fasting mainly works because I believed in it so
much you could say well science shows that it does work well maybe the science
shows that it does work attracts the people that really believe in the
science and then therefore that’s their belief system so then to become attached
to the belief and that becomes a reality maybe there’s many many many different
ways of going about this whole weight thing in this little diet thing or you
know food nutrition thing you see but the key and
magic of this is becoming free become free of these perspectives and when you
become emotionally free that’s where the magic begins to happen that’s where you
feel like anything could happen if you imagine you have this chain with you and
you’re lugging around this weight and imagine that chain and that weight is
ball and chain is what remains from your past and if you take and you’re attached
to your past you’re lugging that everywhere you go and your past is also
the certainty the past conditioning that makes you feel familiar you may be
attached to certain relationships you had certain people you had certain
thoughts you have thinking those are who you are that’s your identity and when
you realize that you can cut cut cut that ball and chain that these old these
old ball and chain cutters imagine I was a ball and chain it’s not you thought it
was a chain but actually it was like a piece of dental floss you could just cut
that dental floss so easily and just be free and be free and the key is the
realization that you are not your thoughts that you do not need anyone
else in your life to make you happy you generate your happiness from within you
do not need the outcome to turn out a little certain way you do not need to be
attached to certain beliefs labels or identity it is a false premise that
we’ve been sold it is a false premise that we believed and we have to take
responsibility for it and when we change that we change everything so the key to
everything I’m sharing with you today is to let go that’s it let go and be free
step into the unknown challenge become aware of the story you tell yourself the
story about how reality works the story that you have to remain attached to the
outcome the story that the people you meet have to be a certain way there’s a
story around all of these things and when you let go of that story and you
detach from it you become free and when you become free you become empowered
when I became free of that belief that I to do intermittent fasting within a 1/2
hour window I felt like there’s a hole but I can eat whatever I want and I can
have a shake in the morning I feel good okay it’s a whole new world and you
would have a whole new world you’re attached to a breakup that you went
through then you’re gonna feel resistance
there’s a little box if you just back out and you realized the truth that
there’s like billions of people out there and that if you had this deep
connection with this person then there’s a likelihood that you could have even a
deeper connection with someone else and then you learned a lot from that
relationship and that now you know that there’s something out there even better
for you and that’s the magic of this video so many times in my life I let go
and magic happens even my own YouTube stats when I’m intending to grow my
channel the more I wanted to go a certain way the more resistance I feel
but the more I’m cool the more I’m cool I just have fun you guys can feel that I
remember you guys probably see me do that analogy before please please like
this video like this video please I’m really attached to what you do and how
you react to me and what you think about me and you feel that resisted you go bro
you want to be like the universe to me go hey Aaron
I go okay I’ll stop it but I go all suave and cool part of my natural self
image die hey beautiful would you mind just lacking this video if you liked it
if you did that would be really cool and then you feel that any like oh okay I
guess I like the video you see what I made different energy but anytime we’re
attached we’re trying to control we’re running around we’re trying to make
things happen we’re going down this beautiful river and this beautiful river
is taking us exactly where we need to go but we’re trying to grab onto branches
we’re trying to grab onto things we’ve got like the oar and we’re like just
trying to like viciously go this it’s like dude the current is taking you
where you need to go just chill out relax bro don’t be attached don’t try to
control just be and the more you let go when you become free of trying to
control the more you let go you become free of your thoughts the people trying
to have them act a certain way the outcomes that beliefs labels identity
the more free you will actually B this is the key to really
becoming the kind of person that you want to be so there is a meditation I
have for letting go of the outcome you can check it out by clicking the top
description box you’ll see a 1 there listen that it’ll help you let go be
free of your past identity and be free of outcome as well as very powerful read
the comments to as possible other than that I hope you enjoyed the video peace
much love and namaste